Same Sex Attraction
God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created him, male and female he created them. And God blessed them and God said to them, "Be fruitful and multiply"
Step 1: Watch the Video
This video features Rev. Paul Scalia, experienced in pastoral care of persons who experience SSA, talking about marriage to a group of teen boys in a classroom setting. Following that talk is testimonial from a member of Courage International.
Source Video Outline
Biographies of Featured Speakers
Fr. Paul Scalia
Step 2: Review Important Principles
After watching the video, give teens a chance to comment or ask questions. Go over the following together.
Created Beings: God is our Creator and he made us male and female.
Marriage has a two-fold purpose: unitive and procreative. Any violation of these two is unchastity.
Marriage connects a child to his father.
Health: The sexes are biologically complimentary and sexual orientation follows your biology.
Disordered attractions can develop as a result of nature and nurture, a little bit of both.
Living in accord with chastity is vital for one’s physical, psychological, and spiritual health.
Honesty: Words should be based on reality and clear in meaning. Language cannot change reality. A universal definition of marriage as the union of a man and a woman has existed for millennia and across civilizations.
Distinguish between actions, attractions, and persons:
1. action – intrinsically disordered
2. attraction – objectively disordered
3. person – created in God’s image, a child of God.
Charity: Truth is for your happiness.
“We don’t want to think of people just in terms of categories: black, white, Hispanic, gay, bi, trans, or whatever else. We want to think of people as persons. Talk about people who have these experiences." -Rev. Paul Scalia
Step 3: Practice Role-Play
Scenario #1: Messing with Marriage
You are at your grandfather’s funeral and your cousin Stan from out of town, whom you haven’t seen for years, greets you and introduces you to his “partner” Rick.
Scenario #2: Labeling Limitations
You are on your high school Year Book Committee working with the main photographer, a male student. While working together you point out that there are a lot of pictures of another classmate, Jeff. The photographer peer explains, “That’s because I have a crush on him.” You seek clarification with, “You mean you admire him?” But he answers, “No, I mean I’m gay.”
Scenario #3: Misleading Movie
A classmate tells you about his new favorite show which features a homosexual couple.
“We are created by God in love, for love, and for eternity. Our identity is a created son or daughter of God.”-Mary Hasson
Allow about two hours (one hour for video, one hour for role playing). One parent presents the video program to three or four teen friends with youth in the front of the room and their parents in the back of the room. After presenting the video, move to another room and act out the role playing scenarios. Give each teen a chance to read the “You” part of each script. Parents take the roles in the scripts opposite of “You.” The role playing was a primary motivation for developing the T2 : Tough Topics programs. Youth in the parish wanted not only to learn about a tough topic but also to get practice articulating the principles underlying the Christian response to the topic.
13+ years old, defer to parent’s judgement. A segment of the video program contains strong and explicit material unsuitable for pre-teens.
Prerequisite: Some sex ed covered by parents.
See other age appropriate recommendations in Raising Children of Light.